Showing posts with label adulthood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label adulthood. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 16, 2020

 

                            


When you hike, you just don’t get to conquer a mountain, you get to conquer yourself with all its weaknesses and fears. There’s just this urge that visits me around when I know I have an upcoming climb. It’s just something that makes me think less and become excited more.

Yes, it could be so much better with my girlfriends in these trips. But I  think that’s just one dream that seems impossible to come true, otherwise, it’ll take about five years.

As we age, plans become more difficult to fulfill, but of course, acting on these plans immediately is what will definitely bring the best results we are eyeing for ourselves. Dreams are planned. They don’t just happen, do they? Dreams demand sacrifices, action, hard work, dedication, and perseverance.

There are so much realizations you have when you get to hike and conquer a mountain. By conquer, I mean, owning what you’re seeing and feeding your soul with more power and happiness.

I started to try hiking when I was twenty. I have had climbed six mountains since then because of my limited days off and scheduling conflicts. My first was in Mt. Pamitinan, Rizal in January 2017. That was the first time I ever appreciated being tired and overwhelmed at the same time. The slopes were treacherous and the height was nerve wrecking which took us two hours to climb. It was rocky and there was traffic above. You get to expect a lot of people during weekends. But as everybody say, it’s all worth it. It was DIY kind of trip. You just have to ride an FX  from Cubao going to Rizal. And ususally, in their covered courts, the registration booths are ready to welcome hikers with the guides waiting for their guests. It was 500.00 every guide. Being early is the key to getting best guides and better view. Less hikers as the highlight if you want to get the best shots.

Second was in Mt. Gulugod Baboy in Batangas. These first two were just minor trails, five or seven out of ten. It was in December 2017. There was a good spot for camping at the top. It rained so it was like sleeping in the mud on our tent. It was indeed very cold in there as there was even a storm that time. There are bus liners in Taft Avenue in Pasay. We rode the Jam Liner bus for an hour and a half, took a jeepney upon reaching Batangas grand terminal, rode another two hours to Mabini, Batangas then registered before hiking. This was another DIY trip and you can climb freely as long as you know the route or if you’re with experienced hikers.

Third was in Mt. Ulap on February 2018. This one is a major. A five hour hike to the top. Unfortunately, the sea of clouds was at the other side of the mountains, still, every view was beautiful. It was a day hike and I am a joiner this time, together with my friend Jie and her boyfriend, Brad. There were three peaks. I can say, watching the sun rise while you’re on top of the mountains is the best. Aside from being priceless, it also wakes up your soul and lets you cling to yourself and even makes you listen to yourself. Number one rule in hiking is to never leave marks and trails. Especially garbages.  You climb to get memories, experience freedom and create inspiration. Because that’s how hiking is supposed to be. Mt. Ulap is located in Itogon Benguet so if you’re a joiner, everything is included from van transfers, guide fee, driver fee, organizers’ fee, food sometimes. So you really don’t have to worry except your climb and trail foods and clothes. It took us about ten hours which includes ascending time, lunch, rest time and descending.

When you hike, you just don’t conquer yourself, if you’re some introvert and you manage to go on this type of activity often, you’ll slightly learn somehow to interact easily, become friends with other hikers and even tour guides and locals. One of the best things about this adventure aside from boosting self love is that, you’ll also get to share your happiness with strangers who are also trying to find their own happiness.

Happiness after all is another version of  success. I cannot define success more than just being happy. We could have all the money, but that does not necessarily define and guarantee happiness within us. If you found what you’re finding, if you’re doing what you love, if you keep that positivity in you, if you get to see the natural creation while standing at a mountain top, then you’re one of the lucky people in the world who has time to define what “real happinness” means.

Pin pointing your passion and what we love to do most is always subjective. Why? Because you only get to decide on your own; Whether it’s who you want, what you want, how do you want it, why you want it, where do you want to do it and when do you want to do it. Familiar? The five W’s and H. These are key questions in again, defining what makes us happy. Your options are always availble to you and it’s just a matter of choosing what works best for you.

Down to my fourth climb. A very hot summer in April 2018. It was in Mt. Bira-Bira (binabalik-balikan) mountain in Zambales.  I joined my friend Jie’s first self organized hike. So most of us knew each other. I brought my sister here. It took us four hours to get to Nagsasa cove. A hike plus beach this time. It was also a day hike. My fifth was in Mt. Nagpatong Rock in Maragondon, Cavite. We were supposed to also visit the falls but it was too late as hikers who can’t make to the top or those first timers who have a not so good cardiovascular system and strong endurance are inevitable.

Then my sixth and my first hike this 2019 was in Mt. Batolusong in Tanay, Rizal. I was with Gelo, my high school batch mate. He invited me to this event, together with some familiar friends from my Mt. Ulap trip, Christian. I got to get close to Lyka, Gelo’s workmate as well. See, there’s a lot of people you can get involved with and are willing to have fun. They are experienced hikers so we did not have any problems wth the slopes, heat, and the major trail. It took us three hours to make it to the top, three peaks, just like Mt. Ulap. Duhat was the first peak,  them Plateau (the ‘patag’ ones), and last, Rangyes Peak which you would need a rope to be able to make it to the top. We started at 5:00 in the morning and finished at 8:30 am. We were then able to make it to the jumpoff at around 11:00 am. One of the fun parts as well is when you get to take a bath and feel the cold water running out of the pipe like a baby trying to get her first bath.

All you really need is arrange schedules, at least prepare your body and go for a cardio workout to help condition your body before the hike if you’re not that active in working out, prepare your budget, don’t eat too much on the way up (just becase you can make up for your tiresome hike after you take a bath and eat whatever you want at the jumpoff LOL), bring what’s only appropriate like water, face towel, cap, jacket, and light snacks for trail foods. Though I still struggle with packing lighlty, I am working on it. In addition, you know what you’re craving for when you’re tired. Me, it’s just pancit canton with egg, a very very cold small bottle of coke, my pictures taken by my hike mates, and my neat clothes on after a fresh bath. LOL.

Don’t ever tell your parents how high you’re climbing, you have to first make it before telling them. You know you’re safe when you follow the rules in a hike, when you don’t separate yourself from the tour guides or fellow hikers, and you’re wearing your ready to kill hike outfit! Those are the things I do. And my fellow hikers just thinks I’m weird and funny at the same time that I always interview the tour guide and joke around.

I just had so much fun hiking that I just had today to make a journal like kind of blog about my experiences. Not too many mountains hiked yet, but many more to climb and get astounded to. It’s not only sunrise and sunsets in the mountains that make it best. Because when you live in the city, you barely get to see stars. So I always am in awe whenever I see galactic creatures, wherever province it is where I am.

Lastly, the question I always hear is that, “Why do these young people spend money to get tired?” Well, it’s just priceless when you get yourself to the top. When you’re not too conscious or you haven’t witnessed yet what kind of nature’s beauty  is out there, you actually haven’t seen anything yet.

Not only you will see green all around you, but you get to see through the view. You get to see your soul in freedom and peace. In good condition and health. Most of all, you get to realize how to properly treat yourself. It is to give whatever it demands to have just because you deserve it.

 

Find joy in climbing! Hope to see you beyond the rocks and mountain tops!

 

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Monday, December 10, 2018

The Ilokana Way of Adulting


These are some of the things I learned over the past two years working and living in the city life alone.

These are things that I thought would be very important to take note if you’re living independently. Especially if you’re a woman.

Well, you don’t have to only take note, you have to understand and know that maybe sooner or later, you’ll have the same struggles and encounters as mine.

If you’re an independent woman and already working, whether you’re from the Ilocandia or not, these are things you might be able to correlate to.

You may laugh, you may smile, and you may raise your hand if you’re guilty finding yourself in the same situation. You’re free to tell me things you have in your minds as well so I could also learn my lessons!

So since I’ve got a lot in my list, I want to share them to you, right here in my blog, written like a market list. Enjoy, Mi cara mia!


1. You become sophisticated. AND.THAT.IS.INEVITABLE.

The moment you realize you’re on your own feet, you get more strict to yourself. More cynical. And better in decision-making.

2. You grow into a more mature individual than what you and others expect of you.

3. You become more bossy. If you have a boyfriend, this might be a problem but you can sure fix it if he is so into you that he will be willing to talk about almost everything.

4. You become more  curious and adventurous at the same time that you try to spend a lot of time wanderlusting. You have your own money and time, and there's nothing wrong with doing something that makes you happy from it.Your soul demands its own time as well.

5. You become an enthusiast of all fields of study and profession. From business, cooking, literature, engineering, architecture, aeronautics, to medicine. Because you will want a piece of everything so that as you grow old, you can tell a single thing or two about anything under the sun to your future child. And if you give yourself time to explore enough, you'll bring the good news home.

6. You get more judgments behind you. You won’t care anyway.

7. You become more cynical (as I mentioned earlier). Not only with love (if you’re single), but with all the people around you. DOUBTFUL.PRESSURED.PARANOID. Yes, adulthood strikes you now.

8. You become more open to saying what you think and feel; sharing what you have is sharing a piece of you. And you know the right people to share it to.

9. You worked eight full hours and you feel as if the whole world is on you.

10. You have to go to the massage center every month at least. Believe me. This is a need. Make-up and facial treatments should be secondary.

11. You feel like you’re bloated every single time you eat. You might be under pressure because you read all those articles that as you age, there’s a high possibility that your metabolism goes slower and SLOWER. Working the stress out helps a lot though.

12. Yes, you might love your job, the environment in your company, but being tired is a part of it as well. Remember, it’s better to feel tired after doing a lot than feeling tired still after doing nothing.

13. All the #adulting responsibilities are on you.

If you are independent as early as nineteen, you’re perceived as the breadwinner or ‘panganay’ (first child). Me, not really, but I support them of course when they need my hand.

14. You want to study more. Because you feel like your entire college life was just a part of your responsibility that you needed to complete and you took a course of study which you believed would take you to your dream job. But sometimes, it’s not always the case.

In my case, I loved what I took. But there are times that I want to do something to add up to my profile and could build my career opportunities better. More skills more chances of winning!

Personally, I chose to study Communication Arts because I loved talking and acting in front of the camera. But as I applied for the biggest broadcasting companies in the country and auditioned to numerous talent agencies, I realized, dream demands a lot of sacrifice, time, and money. It’s expensive, but it’s going to be worth it in the end.

15. Your choice of clothes have changed. You  might have laughed at what facebook throws at you when the “this was your photo four years ago” appears in your timeline.

16. And when you’re looking back at your dreams back in college, they seemed simple. And that they will happen simply. Or that you have to be lucky first to get there. Now, you even want to try doing something that’s out of your league. I tried drum lessons as I wanted to be in a band, it didn’t work. I wanted to learn a different language, mi amor, it’s expensive. And you’ll have agonies if it will result to good ending or not. I am thinking of being a pastry chef, but I don’t really cook. But I do well know, it takes action to take yourself to your imagination.

DREAMING IS PLANNING.

What I mean is, there will be a lot in your mind. They say millenials are ‘masiyadong atat’ (hurrying things too much). But it’s how you should work on your dreams. Once you find it, chase it. Keep chasing until you get them.

Don’t wait until such time that you feel like your choices were wrong. Go for the what is, not what ifs. No choice or decision is wrong. You’ll know what’s best for yourself. And trying should not be an option, it’ a must. You can go to your current job, but don’t stop pursuing your passion and your dreams. The spotlight is just around the corner. Go chase it!

17. Don’t be envious with those who already reached their goals or dreams at early age. Think like this instead, if you already reached your dreams early, what are you going to do with your life now in the next few years? Live the same exact life without any challenges or journeys? I bet you’ll be bored. I mean, it’s okay that you go through the rocks and mountains and slides.

Because it will be worth it the moment you are at the summit of your dreams already. You want to write? Then write poems, articles, start your novel, submit them to publishing firms. You want to act? Then audition whenever given the chance. You want to become an artist? Then don’t get tired or demotivated creating your craft. Build your portfolio silently and make the loudest noise once you have it all.

18. You’ll realize, all of the people strive for the same great things. Money AND fame. It can be money OR fame. The dream to work as if you’re not working and building an empire of your own with your pinky fingers. But it’s not that easy. Again, dreams are never cheap. Should never be cheap.

19. There will be times while working that you wish you were just a child of the queen and king. That you were born with a silverspoon. For me, I wish I had celebrity or royal parents. But those are wishful thinking and mindless dreaming part of us. It’s natural. And at the end of the day, being satisfied of what and who we have is the most important thing.

20. There are times you are thankful for your life, and there are times that you curse. I wish you’ll be more of the thankful type. LOL.

21. We tend to talk about a lot of mundane mutations. But does not apply to our own lives sometimes.

22. You may feel inspired the other day then depressed the next day. Yea, I get it. Get your earphones and listen to music or grab your laptop and enjoy a movie yourself. Make yourself busy and motivated!

23. It won’t hurt to keep a journal. It helps us feel alive and more worth it.

I keep track of things I do during weekends and weekdays. As I read them back, I realized that my life is simply fantastic and pretty busy!

24. Never look down at yourself. Not even at other people.

25. Choose who you are with. Quantity vs. Quality.

26. You always tell yourself to go out and have fun. And end up lying in bed because suddenly you don’t feel like it.

27. You'll try to maximize and give a second look to the benefits you're getting from you employer. Is your work being compensated enough? Is it being recognized? Are you happy doing your job? These are some of the questions that normally come into our minds.

If you're a woman, you always TRY TO CONNECT THE DOTS IN EVERYTHING YOU DO.

28. You will also try to think about your savings. If you're really saving enough and what is it thay you're really saving for?

Actually, this is about you trying to outline your future. Every. Single.Freaking.Time.

When to settle down. Who and what type of guy to settle down with. When to have kids. When to put up a house. When to invest.

Thisnis the time for olanning and realuzing your dreams, girls.

29. You will try to do all the things you think you haven't. I hope those activities will help you know yourself more though and make you grow more.

Me, I just travel, socialize, not forgetting to make myself happy as I choose to be one.

We could be broken by our choices, so why not make smart choices and keep them safe?

But the thing is, you get to enjoy yourself, ONLY when you’re satisfied. It’s happiness when you get to like what you do. It’s freedom when you love what you have and do. And that’s all that’s there is. If you think you have to experience a lot first before you pass out, make sure that you’re experiencing life and stay human and humane, the luxury should come second. Live your kindness and being real a legend.

Thank you, for dropping by! Don't forget to keep chasing dreams!

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