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21 Things for a twenty one year old me and other 20-something girls out there

Here are 21 earned life hacks from the time I separated myself from home:

1. Not everything is for you, not everyone's with you. But it’s possible to have a little bit of everything, it just needs a little workout though.

2. Youthful years might fade soon, yet if you live gracefully, it’ll sure keep you hanging with the things you’ve done through your youthful years when you get older. It’s either laughing at them or crying over them.

3. You'll be having insecurities - normal, but being able to conquer these is rare and being able to get away from them is bravery.

4. Being a college graduate at nineteen while having earned a latin honor is a possibility. And I made it! At an early age, though some say a late bloomer am I, I’d still say I got alone to where I am now. And I’m enjoying life like I never had it before. It’s different of course; it’s only me now. 

I think there will be three stages of living life in terms of stages and ageing.

1.    When we were young and with our parents’ house.

2.   When we got a li’l older and we either rent an apartment, condominium or purchased a house and live to the fullest;

3.   When we become more mature and be with our own family and well, think only about family now. I might consider a fourth one, growing older with your grandchildren, picturing yourself in a couch or in a rocking chair and reading a book or listening to the radio playing music you used to play either with the person you were so in love when you were like, eighteen maybe? LOL

5. Hardship can be at the beginning or latter part.

A short explanation on this one is that no one starts big but if you think of starting big for something big already, then you should be ready for the consequences on the latter part. I mean, getting hard on the first part is hell, but in the long run, it'll be easier as you practice the do's and don'ts over time. Compared to getting all the hang of your dreams, you’ll end up being addicted to it (this is the bad part) or boosting your passion more (this is a good thing).

6. It's not always fate, it's also your choices and your faith with those choices that bring you to where you will be someday.

7. It's not what you earn that matters, it's what you save out of what you earn and how you build something out of it.

8. It's not the social media nor the people around you, it's just you baby. Adore you, be you. Now, think about social media as a channel for you to market how happy one person like you can be. Inspire, congratulate, admire, adore, ignore if beed be how people post for themselves. That’s how social media should work, I believe.

9. Never think that you're still young and that others should take care of you. At 21, knowing how to live independently should be the ultimate goal already. It is a must for a person not to think of life as a joke but a total ground where practical training is always applied. And I bet, the things that you’ll learn as you age are not from the things that you learn from school, it’s the things that you learn from yourself, other people and the things that happen around you.

10. Getting a life insurance is an option, though I now think of it as a necessity because I am looking forward to early retirement. Aside from considering it as an investment, you could turn out all that you’ve put there into a business.

11. Planning ahead is a smart choice. Yet I still am one of the millennials whose choices are vulnerable and whose decisions are easily changed, yet, the best of it is still doing something out of it.   I learned from someone that it’s not important what you went through before getting to where you want to be, what’s important is, you get to go where you actually planned.

12. Shop wisely. Dream of a car, a house, one day. Because the truth is, you're young and you've got the time to make it a point wherein you'll know more, better and be more absolute with the things you think about.

13. Having your own family is probably the cutest thing you could ever imagine. Why? Because babies are always adorable aren't they? I just don't know when they grow up. Haha!

14.These days are the most aggressive days according to most of the people I know that I'm even told by my parents to go slow and that I'm young (but I don't think I am already). LOL. Also, as much as possible, involve yourself in the big picture. The future. The fast paced industry. Deal with what's foreign to you and people that are in the same circle with you. If you belong, then you can be the big thing.

15. Just know that communication is definitely the way to explaining yourself up, your abilities and your personality. And when you're considered good at it, then you're in the market!

Second to that is dressing yourself up, matching it with confidence and style totally defines your character.

16. If you can, don't opt for 2 faces, you might get different sometimes, but don't make the change a big one. Make sure that it'll still be you.

17. While you're as young as seventeen, be a leader, be the theater producer, the theater actress, be the best actress in a lead role on an inter-college film making campus competition. Be it. Find yourself as early if possible. If not, again, always think that everyone has his/her own timeline.

18. Be the princess you've always been since you were born. You're a girl, girl. Therefore, you deserve all the beautiful things in life. And you have to make it yourself to have it personally designed, not imitated.

19. Be creative in your own way. I do write songs and do blogging, been doing these since seventeen. I don't get paid for it, I hope one time I will be, but I am contented creating and doing just like that right now.

20. Engaging in parties are absolutely not a sign that you're one of the trends. What about talking to adults and still be at pace with them even if they are talking about their kids and family? I think that would be better.

21. Be a bitch if you need be. Be knowledgeable enough, be insensitive enough of the useless talks of the crowd, be brave enough, just because, you're a young woman. Love enough (make sure to look before you fall) and be friendly enough that your presence brings real tense to everyone. And that makes you feel that your existence is important and that it’s a beautiful magic affair enjoying yourself, at 21.

 

Me on a staycation.

Me feelin' like a fairy in one of Calamian Islands

Dog lover island hopping in Coron.

P.S. check more of my pics on my IG @meaganmangoma. Thank you! 💕

How To Be Effortlessly Visibly Beautiful

Everyone’s dream seems to be related, if not always, almost related to fame and privilege.

Being visible to everyone, noticed by anyone, somehow boosts someone’s confidence.

Do you even remember the first time you dressed up like a Barbie girl or like one of the princesses in one of the fairytale books you have read?

Do you remember when you told yourself, "gosh, I'm a total hippie!" or "damsel in distress"?

When was the last time you saw a guy looking at you like you're the most beautiful girl he has ever seen? Or when did your classmates ever mentioned that you are looking beautiful and astounding?

Do you miss these times? I know everyone would. All the flattery words and motvational speeched we’ve heard have always been hee, we just have to appreciate what we’ve had and what we have now.

I am not a perfectionist, nor an expert fashion icon yet I know something about adding a fashion to your attitude. The millenial style you might say. LOL. But these might help you somehow.

First, I usually deal with lots of trends in women's society created for guys to explore their interest with girls that are, well, classy, sassy, trendy, pretty, whatever. I check it out via scoial media outlets like instagram, facebook, twitter, tumblr.com and other portals that are easily managed for exposing a person’s lifestyle and creativity.

Second, I always keep in mind that acting like a lady while still young makes you a respected person though you are not a duchess in a mansion or a daughter of a lord like, let's say in British community. I have books with the same exact theme like Anita Burgh’s ‘Azure Bowl’ and Nora Roberts’ ‘Dream Trilogy’.

The truth is, you just have to know what you really want and be the star on your own. Meaning, each one of us has a light within that we are yet to discover. Don’t be sad if you haven’t found that light yet, but one sure thing is that it’ll shine, one day, and you haven’t even thought about it.

These are not tips, not even forced propositions but if you would accept these challenges of mine to boost your confidence more, better get your nerves to where you actually want to start and act on it. Do remember that the gap between dream and you is ACTION.

Think simply of the moments when you were still a kid and your mom would wipe your tears when you cry or change your diapers in the middle of the night. Now, you transformed into a superwoman and you want to be like someone else, but the best thing to be 'someone' is to be yourself, The one who thinks independently, mature, smartly, creatively, not judgmental, kind, and optimistic.

Think of one famous person who you really look up to and that you want to become like him or her. Have you noticed that they have also gone through a lot of rejections, struggles, and stayed humble as they are now that they are on top? If you have, then you're looking up to someone who is a real inspiration, at least for you.

I'll share mine. I absolutely love Taylor Swift. She is America's sweetheart and a real influential woman today. Through her music since 16, she showed her fearlessness and her patience of waiting for her dreams to be right in front of her. Through the years, since I was thirteen, five years ago, I started listening to her music. She's a philanthropist.

 She gives everything back to people who adores her! Taylor's brilliant and passionate too as the president of the Big Machine Records, Scott Borchetta, said in an interview when Swift was still in her teenage years and trying to live her dream.

Like her, I want to explore every opportunity that is there for me. Because I love music, I went back to my compositions when I was seventeen and started playing a melody for them. See people sing to mys songs, record again and again, make albums or novels. Yet, I still don't know where to start, really.

I'm a graduating student and I would dare starting my journey now.

This is for you, if you are reading this, your attitude is very important in achieving what you really want to be. Your style should be different. You should show your charisma, your adorable face.

Be humble, think of your habit, what you love to do, your interest and then your dreams. Then start walking to your aims. Is it too big? don't worry, in your head, everything is possible. don't forget that. If it's in your head, then you're on your way. 

And to make all of those real? Start chasing what you want. Rock the world, rock with your friends, share your talent and be an ultimate rockstar! If you are, but if you're a dreamer like a business kind of life, then start on your own, growing takes time.

This is for all the young girls out there, because you are young, you feel the urge to start over easily eagerly, because we have burning passion in everything we do.

When you are into writing, still, you can hit the road to success! Start blogging, writing journals. Anything that exercises your writing abilities.

Oops, don't forget to get yourself a god coach, Everyone needs that, we may start with our parents, friends, teachers. Someone you can rely on, show your true self to. In business talks, market yourself, know everybody in the market, learn the strategies and think about all the aspects of the industry you want to enter.

And if being a rock star is your option, don't deny it, show everyone though they laugh at you, enjoy what you do. It definitely makes them sad I tell you. Seeing you in that stage, singing or speaking about something that's inspiring and important, they will feel ashamed. Again, you're standing on your feet, keep them on the ground baby.

Your friends, I mean the true ones will help you, and will look up to you. Your family on the other hand will hold you and support you wherever you might be. A lot pf people love you.

Reach out to people. don't be too timid or shy, create a beautiful mess!

The society is the key to knowing what you really want. It's defining what they want to see so you could deliver it to them in your own way without pretending.

Time is to come, over the years and the next generation, Time will never stop ticking and moving for everyone to see that the world is ready to open. The earth's core sees the spin frequency and you have to target, you have to know, when do you really want to go and push your dream to reality?

Take a pause, don't end everything just reading this, why don't you go and sit right there, think of all the possible opportunities you can have for yourself. Do it. Go for it! Think right and be the rockstar of your life!